a-Harmony
e-Harmony’s where one in five now on the Internet,
Find hope in human partnerships, and former dreams are met;
Some other sites meat-markets are, as flesh encounters flesh;
But here the skillful staff work hard each person to assess.I think of Fiddler On The Roof amidst the dance and song,
The woman making matches moved relationships along;
Ben Johnson said each second time that marriage vows are said,
Hopes over our reality emerge, by which we’re fed.Some minister who’d seen enough sat down and got to work,
To find a way to link folks up, to filter out the jerks;
Protecting each one’s dignity, providing tools for talk,
So substance might emerge as base for friendship’s loving walk.No matter how we meet our spouse, there’s work which must be done,
For marriage changes all of us, not all of life is fun;
But back in days when folks grew up amidst their kith and kin,
There were quite often good supports to worlds which we were in.When in the north arrangements made by uncles, parents, friends,
Threw people who were strangers into marriages and then,
Community gave them support, “Stay there, love will emerge –
But there’s no chance it will work out if pathways now diverge.”That worked for eons ’till the days when people moved away,
Where no support demands we work on marriage every day;
e-Harmony gives love a chance by starting things out well,
Avoiding errors at the start which lead to living hell.My problem with e-Harmony is like with DNA –
For kids are tested now at birth, rejects are tossed away;
It’s like we feel that good enough’s not perfect, so despair
Of having what can grow for us, with tender loving care.Like web-sites on the Internet, the glitz can look so good;
Like women after Photoshop’s invoked one’s view of 'should';
Performance-boosting steroids making prowess seem mundane;
Within this world of make-believe, the normal looks insane.For those of us where marriage came the good old-fashioned way,
Temptation is for us to scoff, to cyber-matching say,
“It cannot work”, despite the fact for one-in-five it does,
But greater still a danger lies in Internet because –We start to think that we missed out, that we were born too soon;
We could have had a perfect spouse instead of this baboon;
So shifting focus from the real, the route to growing up,
We waste our time in fantasy – avoid the road that’s tough.But settle down – it’s just not true – no matter where we start,
Relationships demand from us commitment on our part
In choosing how we’ll deal with life, as we one-flesh become,
That in the end we’ve both matured – a-harmony as one.navigation